Dear ABBY: A few years ago, my husband and I bought a house together with his sister. We share the bills and chores and, for the most part, it works. We live in a better home than we could afford on our own.
However, my husband and his sister usually discuss and make decisions about the house without involving me. I have complained loudly and clearly each time I hear this has happened. I don’t get it often. Usually, they will apologize, but the behavior does not change.
We recently had extensive damage to the house from a severe storm. Insurance and contractors will be involved. I have already learned about decisions made outside of my control. I think this is very disrespectful, and I’m ready to walk out. I would like your advice. – Discount in FLORIDA
FAVORITE LOST: You must make your husband and sister-in-law understand that you are equal partners in this agreement. Why they think your input has less value is anyone’s guess. Whether this will require the help of a mediator or a marriage counselor depends on how willing they are to cooperate. However, if you continue to be ignored, you may want to consult an attorney about what your legal rights are in this situation.
Dear ABBY: My husband and I lost our precious, beloved dog a month ago. We have had other pets over the years, but as we got older, our little boy was like a child to us. He went with us everywhere.
We are having a terrible time handling this. For example, we went to the store yesterday, and when we got to the restaurant, we both started crying. We cry every night at bedtime when we say goodnight to him in heaven. When we drive near the park where we took her, we get separated again. How can we deal with it? When we talk to friends or neighbors, we start crying again. I am asking for help. – PET PARENT IN MICHIGAN
DEAR PET PARENT: Please accept my sympathy. The passing of a beloved furry family member is never easy. Because your loss is still fresh, it’s no wonder you and your husband are grieving. Contact your vet, explain your emotional state and ask for a referral to a grief support group. (Yes, there are.) In time, your overwhelming emotions will subside, and you’ll miss the “little boy” and be able to smile again.
Dear ABBY: Because the cost of cards and postage is so high, I have started sending cute e-cards more often (except for Christmas). I spend as much time choosing the right card as I would in a store choosing a paper card. I send postcards to friends and family who expressed their interest. Are e-cards more acceptable than paper cards? – SENDER OF GREETINGS TO OREGON
DEAR SENDER: ee cards have gained popularity for the reasons you mentioned. I don’t see them as more appropriate (or acceptable) than paper cards. An important thought. Readers, would you like to rate this? I am interested in your opinion.
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