Michelle Obama Breakup Takes Time to Stay With Partner
If there’s one person on Earth I’m willing to take any kind of advice from, it’s Michelle Obama. And in his latest episode IMO podcast, the former first lady barred people from moving in with their soon-to-be romantic partners.
“If you’ve just started a relationship, you shouldn’t be going in,” he said in response to a question posted by fans of a person who is considering moving in with a boy they’ve been dating for a year. “I don’t care how much money he has or doesn’t have. You don’t know him yet!”
Putting aside the financial benefits of meeting a mate, Michelle simply said, “You don’t do anything that serious at the beginning of a relationship.” “What would you do if you found out you lied about something? “Do you know why on earth anyone would think to do that at the beginning of a relationship? Wait a few years.”
“It takes time for a person to fully reveal himself to you over time, so you know that your love and your feelings stand the test of time. There are many tests you need in a relationship,” he continued, suggesting that it is a good idea to go abroad with someone before you think about moving there, or spend holidays with their family and see what their home is like. “Yes, there are exceptions…But what I always recommend: Take your time. Go down the line.”
As Michelle said, everyone’s circumstances are different, but she certainly makes some very valid points. And now a clip of the podcast has made its way to Reddit, where fans have their thoughts on the debate. Tons of people totally agree with Michelle; However, some have suggested that moving in with someone relatively early is a quick way to find out if it will work in the long run.
“You really get to know someone when you live together.” Living together really tests a relationship for life, and it will make or break it,” wrote one user, while another suggested that “you miss the red flags when you’re dating that you just can’t ignore when you’re living together.”
“I agree that money should not be the only reason to live, however, I will not date someone for years before living together,” echoed another. “I think it can be a good test against how someone really is or their habits. And it depends on the age, dating in your 30s is different than when you are 21.”
Although it is true to say that not everyone agrees. On the other side of the debate, someone asked: “Why live/marry someone you’ve never seen in bad situations? You need a lot of tests in a relationship…You don’t know how children behave, you don’t know how they react when everything goes wrong on a day. Just chill a little, let the new phase of love pass, and let yourself go.”
Speaking specifically about living together to save on rent, one person wrote: “If the main reason you’re in it is to live financially, it can create dependency before you even know if you’re a good fit. I’ve seen situations where people have ignored red flags because they had nowhere else to go. A romantic partner shouldn’t be your housing plan. That’s a lot of built-in pressure to build your foundation. It sounds like the next step, that’s different, but using cohabitation as a financial shortcut it can make it very difficult to leave when things get bad.
Sooo, where are you guys at this? As someone in their early 20s, it’s quite a hot topic, so I’d love to get your thoughts. Meanwhile, you can listen to the full episode of IMO with Michelle Obama and Craig Robinson here.
