Kristin Cavallari It has tips for people who may be divorced.
“It’s one of the scariest things you can go through, and depending on your situation, it can bring out the worst in people,” said Cavallari, 39, during the Tuesday, March 10, episode of his “Let’s Be Honest” podcast. “It’s incredibly unfortunate, but it’s the sad truth. You’re going to see the worst. You’re going to see a side of your spouse that you didn’t even think was possible. I hope not, every situation is different.”
Cavallari reflected on her two-and-a-half-year divorce from her ex-husband Jay Cutler.
“That was the most stressful time of my life,” he continued. “I think this unknown is really scary, and the power plays with lawyers. It can be dark and it can be very stressful.”
Cavallari and Cutler, 42, were married for nearly seven years before announcing their decision to separate in 2020. Their divorce was finalized in 2022. The former have children Camden, 13, Jaxon, 11, and Saylor, 10.
Keep scrolling for Cavallari’s divorce advice:
Schedule Maintenance Time
Cavalari explained that it is “very difficult” to go “no contact” with someone when there is a divorce involved.
“There is a time when you still have to grieve that relationship and heal and get over it. That doesn’t happen overnight,” she said. “Even if you don’t love that person anymore, there is a time to just get used to life and get used to living without that person now in your everyday world.”
Your First Move
The former reality star said she was “consulting a lawyer” before revealing plans to break up. He also suggested gathering as much information as possible.
“You need to know everything you have together, your finances, your assets. You need to know about debts,” explained Cavalari. “You have to have a good understanding of your financial situation and what you guys are up to, and what will be on the table in this divorce.”
Cut Your Shared Digital Footprint
Cavalari said to “change all your passwords” and “lock down your site,” regardless of whether things are hacked or not.
“I would try to keep everything as private as possible,” she said.
Children Are The Only One That Matters
“When you’re a mother — I don’t care what anybody’s situation is — you have to do what’s best for the kids,” she said. “In the middle of a divorce, children, I can promise you as someone who has gone through a divorce and has three children who were old enough to remember things and understand, they remember. They remember big things.”
Cavallari told the audience that they shouldn’t “go down the road of dumping your ex,” especially in front of the kids.
“I think it’s right to protect yourself without abandoning the other parent,” he added. “I never thought you should start it, but I think if they start it, I think you should protect yourself.”
Write Everything
Cavallari noted that this proposal is for anyone who is facing a stateless situation.
“If there’s any kind of foul play going on, I would recommend writing everything down, and that means capturing the messages, putting them on a file on your phone,” she said. “Create an album that’s easily accessible.”
Cavallari expected his partner to break up with him wanting to know some things – he said he would provide “as little information as possible.”
Focus on Self-Care
That being said, having an “outlet” to discuss difficulties is important and Cavalari reminded listeners to take care of themselves.
“This is going to be one of the most stressful things you’ll ever go through. It’s very hard on your body,” added Cavallari. “That emotion is very hard on your body, stress is hard on your body.”
