Dear ABBY: I have been married to the same man for almost 50 years. We raised a wonderful family, had successful careers, and never strayed. For the past 20 years or so, I have had little or no desire for sex. I understand it medically and emotionally, but Hubby doesn’t get it at all. He thinks we should be like we were back in the ’70s and ’80s.
I am happy with older couples who have a healthy sexual relationship. I don’t like it anymore, honestly, and I don’t like taking medicine to “enhance” me. What is wrong with a man taking something “unI know the Bible’s God-given task of procreating, so, hundred-year-old men give birth to children and young women.
Yes, I had a hysterectomy 20 years ago. After that, I lost interest, but Hubby still had needs. Some are met; many are not. Now it’s a BIG problem. I would like to sail in peace within the next 10 years, if I have that long. I would like him to find happiness too. Is it crazy to divorce because of such an old need for a man? – ENJOY THIS SOUTH CAROLINA WAY
LOVE AND BE HAPPY: “Abandoning” your husband is not the answer. If you both can agree on a plan that will benefit both of you, it can be emotionally and financially less stressful than divorce.
Dear ABBY: I have an acquaintance, “Tina,” who I believe uses her GoFundMe fundraising web page. A close friend set it up a few years ago to help with medical bills related to a rare cancer that will never go away completely.
When this page started, Tina was asking for donations on Facebook and sending messages reminding everyone to donate. Later, when she and her husband went out of town for surgery, they wrote about it like it was a vacation.
Recently, he had some legal bills for an unrelated matter, and a year after donating for the last treatment, he received a large donation that matched the amount of his legal bills. I suspect that the person who donated the money was tricked into believing that Tina had another large medical bill, but used that donation for her legal fees.
On top of this, Tina opened a new fundraising page with a heartbreaking story about her cancer coming back and being hospitalized about a week before that request.
Abby, I know Tina was healthy as an ox at the time not hospital and probably set this up to create a smokescreen to protect his nefarious intentions. Now I keep wondering if I should report you, or if I should just mind my own business. – NO MORE IN FLORIDA
BELOVED I’m not coming: If you honestly think Tina has been abusing her GoFundMe page, report it. The process is not difficult. There is a notification button at the bottom of the page that can be pushed to alert its “Fraud Team” that something might be going on.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
